About Me

I’ve been blogging as JFBreak since 2007 and using some form of that handle for at least well over a decade on various forums and web sites. James F. Break, or sometimes James Breaker, the Internet sex persona I use comes from a funny joke I heard years ago. I’m finally getting around to tell you a little about me, even if I don’t share my actual name.

The usual stats: I’m in my late 40’s,early 50’s, married since age 21, I’m just over 6 feet tall, and feel like I’m really heavy at 235 240 pounds, but some people allege that I carry it well. I blame my weight on the fact that my wife is an incredible cook and dinner is usually waiting for me when I get home from work. We have two kids, both adults with kids of their own in their mid 20’s, both very well adjusted and successful in life., and both live in other states.

Speaking of my kids: If either of you ever find this blog, stop reading now. It will only gross you out. I have no interest in knowing anything about my parent’s sex lives, and it only stands to reason that you should have no interest in knowing about mine. Suffice it to say, I am the father, mom is the mother, and the fact that you are alive today is proof that we have sex. I have always wondered about and admired those writers who can so openly tell the tales of their sex lives knowing that family and especially children will someday read it all. It isn’t that I am ashamed of sex, I just don’t think it is something I feel comfortable sharing with my kids or my parents. As the advice columnist Dan Savage often writes, the responsible thing to do is for everyone to suspend reality and pretend that they don’t know what they know. So, move along.

And if you know me: Either because I told you about this blog or you stumbled upon it and know for sure it is really me, I would appreciate your discretion. I will admit to it if you ask me, but you knowing so much about me will surely change our relationship. Positively or negatively, it will change. 

The sex: This is the problem and this is why I blog here. Unlike 95% of the married guys on the Internet, I am not married to a woman who dislikes sex. My wife would fuck everyday of the week if she had the opportunity. I’m the problem. I think about sex often all the time, but I don’t think about sex with my wife all the time. I have been trying to pinpoint the cause of this for years. I have considered that perhaps I’m gay, but why then do I find other women attractive? I have accepted for years that I am at least bisexual and even engaged in several MM encounters, yet now, I question if that label fits. My wife has fulfilled many of my fantasies including participating in MFM threesomes. I can’t complain, really, when I know so many men who are into the cuckold fetish or the Hotwife dream would kill to share their wife just one time. We did this for years and I know I am a lucky guy.  In fact, my wife has a regular boyfriend and I am very happy with that arrangement.

What I blog about: The problem with Break Out – the name is a play on the pen name, JFBreak, and the fact that when I first started blogging, I was coming to grips with my now questionable Bisexuality – is that I am all over the place. I use this forum as therapy for myself. I appreciate followers and love comments from others, but honestly, I am writing for myself. For someone reading a sex blog, it isn’t consistently full of sex. I have probably deleted more posts over the years than are listed in the archives. I have written about our threesomes, about my encounters with co-workers, and a host of other topics, only to later come back and remove the post. My goal is to eventually re-post all of those, but it takes time.

Hopefully, if you read Break Out Letters to Me from time to time, you might find something insightful, or you might leave a comment that will make my day. You can always send me an e-mail at jfbreak@gmail.com. 

Last updated: 31 May, 2017